2017 Men’s Conference @ROLCC

mensconference– Pressure

  • Sources of pressure: family, job, connections, etc.
  • How to win over pressure:
  • Belief in God (确认主的同在)
  • Removal of pessimism (除去消极思想)
  • Be committed in routine (在小事上忠心)
  • Pray for God’s lead (祷告寻求神的带领)
  • What if we fail:
  • Accept truth (接受事实)
  • Be humble to learn (存谦卑的心学习)
  • Faith in God’s ability (确信神永不误事)
  • Questions to discuss in your group:
  • What’s the most pressing pressure you’re facing right now? (在你现在的环境中,你所面对最大的压力是什么?)
  • What’s your normal way of handling pressure? Is it effective? (你通常面对压力的方法是什么?有效么?)
  • What’s the most helpful message you heard today? (你觉得今天的信息对你最有帮助的一点是什么?)

  • Success

  • How do you define success? (什么是成功?)

  • Principles of being successful:
  • (认识自己的长处与短处)
  • (要有清楚的目标)
  • 学习做一个解决问题的人
  • 不要怕失败
  • 要有热情
  • 要为每天的生活做选择
  • 从成功到有意义
  • 从物质到价值
  • 从追求到给予
  • 从堆积到培育
  • 讨论问题
  • 请分享一下你现阶段的生命目标?什么是你的热情所在?你觉得最大的难处是什么?
  • 有哪些事是你正在做来达成目标,去除拦阻的?

  • Connections

  • A good web of connections is the KEY to happiness

  • Principles of dealing with connections:
  • In family:
  • What they want is your time and attention! Put your laptop and cellphones away! Just spend time with them!
  • Love your wife, never ignore her
  • 爱,就是用心去注意她
  • 要常纪念妻子的爱与付出
  • 爱火是可以重燃的
  • Be kind/nice/patient to your wife, your children will mimic you and have the same attitude to their mom
  • If you’re rude, inpatient to your wife, then your children will be the same to their mom, and then their future spouses, this will have permanent damage!
  • 要教养你的儿女,不要缺席
  • 明白“属灵的头”的角色
  • 用生活的榜样来教导
  • 按孩子的需要来带领
  • 要花时间陪伴他们
  • Have daddy-daughter date time! Set it up as a weekly routine, just spend time together, no interruptions, this is the key to building a strong parent-child relationship!
  • In workplace:
  • 要学习与人相处共事
  • 对上司保持良好的沟通
  • 对同事保持团队的互动
  • 要选择你要相处的人群
  • 要学习去帮助别人
  • 关系就是通路
  • Questions to discuss in your small group:
  • In your personal life, what’s your most tough questions in handling connections/relationships?

  • Wealth

  • Wealth for Christians

  • Principles for Christians wealth manangement:
  • 确认神是我们一切所有的主
  • 作神忠心又有见识的管家
  • 要殷勤筹划
  • 要慷慨奉献
  • 要拜托债务
  • 储蓄与投资
  • 投资在永恒
  • 提早退休,投身服事
  • 遗产规划,让钱财被神所使用
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My uncle passed away

[This post was originally posted on 01/17/2017, but due to blog migration, it lost its original post date, I’m re-posting it here]

It’s shocking to hear that my uncle (my father’s sister’s husband) passed away today.
I heard the news from my dad. Then I contacted my cousin to condole her. Hours later, she replied:”I have no dad now.”
Reading that single line of message alone broke my heart.

I could hardly image how that hurts.
She’s in tears and cries now.

I just became a father last month, I can hardly imagine how my daughter would feel when I leave her alone.

I regret that I didn’t catch any chances to spread the Good News to my uncle and now I’m praying late that he could still land in Heaven and our godly father will take care of him.
He died at his early 50s, at such a young age, he has a very good wife and a very cute daughter. They’re part of our family.
I didn’t get a chance to see him for the last time.

Death, is so near to us.

This invokes me to reflect a lot. What’s most important to me?
Not work, nor code, nor fixing bugs, not blogging, it’s endless, and in retrospect, it’s meaningless.
I’d like to spend time with my family, just company them. Do whatever with them, time is so precious, I want to be with them.

Java Dependency Management and Programmers’ Learning Stages

Maven is a really cool/powerful dependency management tool.

Prior to doing a side project on your own, you could hardly really understand what dependency management really means. I’ve moved my random/vanilla/plain Java code around several times due to machine change, etc. But each time, when I fire up my IDE (Eclipse or IntelliJ), I’m always faced up with a screen of red lines (cannot resolve symbols, etc.) That’s such a pain!

I have migrated my SpringTutorials project into a Maven managed Java project: My Spring 101

This might seem trivial from all perspectives. But to be frank, I would regard it as a milestone for myself. I’ve gone through several different stages with programming, this is a good example of it:
1. “Hello World” stage: Wow! I could make the code run and print out “Hello World” for me, amazing!
2. “Cannot resolve symbol” stage: After adding one API from a non-JRE jar library, my Java code doesn’t compile in my IDE, I’m blocked here, didn’t know/bother what to do to solve it. Thinking whether programmer is a right career choice for me.
3. “Add that jar” stage: After a long time, maybe 1.5 years, after many times people shouted at me, I kind of tried to download the jar and add them onto my classpath. This is a painful process, wondering whether software engineering is a fit for me every single day, just upon I started my career working at one of the FLAG companies. This is a path full of frustration and worry.
4. “Love it” stage: After ruling out other possible diverges, thinking/acknowledged that programming is the best career choice for me, I started to enjoy myself completely in the world of computer science, soon, everything clicks! Maven naturally comes into my mind when I tried to refactor this SpringTutorials project.

Cheers!